Wedding parties welcome all the well wishers and faithful friends, that what I thought for a while till this happen with me. An expat colleague and a wonderful friend of mine invited me to his wedding, it was their custom to invite families and only close friends, it was a beautiful set up of an event as I was told by another friend who attended it, you must be asking does that mean I did not go? Yes unfortunately I preferred not to attend it, I will let you know why.
It's my disposition not to socialize a lot that saved my face from being with guests who do not respect their host. Some senior and other junior staff of our organization came without bringing their families with them! I was told that some has brought other guests as well who were not on the list of the invited, only the expats were noble enough to come with their families and do all that a decent friend will do in a wedding of another colleague.
My people the local staff or the Omanis who attended do deserve the title "Nation of Starers" to the letter, they came sans their wives to stare at women and enjoy every gaze they can get with wishful bawdy thinking, I'm not fabricating all this, I was told about how annoyed was the host about such unfaithful few, the next day at work I heard those womanizers talk about the party and send out their innuendoes freely without a tincture of respect or fear of any kind. Learning about their behavior and hearing the next day their absurdities I recalled the idiom of the wild ass in the wilderness "sniffing up the wind at her pleasure" they were absolutely like it, how can a decent well-wisher be a libertine instead?!.
One of the seniors laughed when he was asked why did he not bring his wife along with him and said "I do not bring my wife to such places"!, do you believe that?! A total disrespect and derision for people. When a senior thinks and behaves like that what you expect from his management. Don't tell me he said that in jest, people do matter and their things too.
Not socializing doesn't mean I'm prudish but I have an innate self that manages my emotions and respects all kinds of people even the assholes but the imbeciles won't know the grandeur of decorum with all the academic degrees they nominally hold.
Confucius would have included something in his analects about those "wild asses" if he was introduced to such people at his time, but the golden rule will remain forever a yardstick in making and assessing relationships, Do unto others as thou want others to do unto thee, there Confucius and the whole realm of manners live, without them shame is veneered to look nice.